Issa Rae Gets Real About Friendship
“I don’t check in as often as I should…”
With just those few words, Issa Rae had us all leaning in—and maybe even looking inward. In a recent interview clip that’s now making waves on social media, the “Insecure” creator and actress shared a quiet truth that so many of us can relate to but rarely say out loud.
“I am not a considerate friend in the way I would like to be,” Issa confessed.
Whew. That hit, didn’t it?
We live in a time when we’re constantly being pulled in a million directions—building our dreams, showing up for family, juggling work, trying to stay mentally and physically well. And in the midst of all that hustle, checking in on our girls can fall down the list. Not because we don’t love them, not because they don’t matter, but because we’re stretched thin. Still, hearing Issa—who always comes off as so put together—say it out loud was a reminder that none of us are perfect friends all the time.
What makes this moment so powerful is that Issa wasn’t making excuses. She owned it. With grace. With honesty. And without the usual sugarcoating. She said what so many of us feel but are too ashamed to say: “I could be doing better.”
That kind of self-awareness? That’s where growth begins.
And it’s something we can all reflect on. Maybe there’s a sister-friend you’ve been meaning to text. A birthday you missed. A call you keep saying you’ll return when “things slow down.” This is your sign to go ahead and send the message, make the call, check in. It doesn’t have to be long. Sometimes a simple “Hey sis, I’ve been thinking about you” can mean the world.
Issa’s transparency reminds us that friendship isn’t about perfection—it’s about intention. About showing up when and how you can. And when you fall short, it’s about being real enough to admit it and loving enough to try again.
So here’s the takeaway: Let’s give ourselves and each other a little grace. Let’s be honest about where we are—and strive to grow from there. Because being a good friend isn’t about always getting it right. It’s about caring enough to do better next time.
Shoutout to Issa for keeping it real, as always. Her vulnerability isn’t just refreshing—it’s a gentle nudge for all of us to love our people a little louder, a little more often, and a little more intentionally.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got a few texts to send.
Source: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DJQAfluSujD/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
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